“I am the worstest girl!”

Sally hurriedly pushed the cart up the grocery isle. Susan sat contentedly in the seat, tapped mom’s hand and looked around. Jane lagged behind, curiously examining the stacked cans and colorful boxes. Sally turned and said to her foster daughter, “Jane, stop touching those things. Come on, keep...

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I don’t know!!

TRAUMA DISRUPTED COMPETENCIES, PARADIGM SHIFT Dealing with the “I don’t know” (IDK) bomb! We call it a bomb because fear and anger usually explode with these words. Word bombs are often delivered in the face of a genuine plea for understanding about why a behavior occurred. These words often drive...

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NEW OPPORTUNITIES–LET US HELP

CONSULTING, TRAININGS, AND REFRESHER COURSES Connection Resources is opening and expanding programing. We are accepting consultations and can book trainings. Services provided via Zoom, Facetime, or live. For many years, we have been contacted for consultation services, refresher courses, and...

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Intentional Rule Breaking—Competing Shoulds

Paradigm Shift: Behaviors From the corner of her eye, Sally silently watched Jane, her daughter via foster care, sneak into the kitchen for her eighth snack. Sally yelled, again, at her to stop and go to her room. Jane wheeled about and stomped off, loudly screaming that she wanted to talk to her...

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Adapting the Environment

ENVIRONMENT HEALING ENVIRONMENT   Special Environmental Considerations for children with early trauma In preceding chapters, we informed the reader about the impact of child trauma and how to develop a supportive team.  Once the team is in place, we must turn our attention to creating a...

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Helpful and Hurtful Words, Part 2

PREREQUISITE:  PARENT’S SELF-REGULATION Little Johnny yelled at the dog for needing to go outside.  Dad walked over and narrated the event, matched his son’s affect and said, “It sure is hard having to stop everything and take the dog out when you are busy.  Kind of makes you mad...

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2019 Another Busy Year

Jeff and I have had another busy year and are thankful for the many opportunities we have had and the wonderful people we met. In June, we presented at the National Council on Adoption in Atlanta. https://www.adoptioncouncil.org/ Jeff gave the “two baby talk” which in reality has grown...

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ECTM–Emotional Cognitive Trauma Model

Welcome Our desire is to provide the tools for dedicated parents and professionals to facilitate the healing of traumatized children in a family setting. The Emotional Cognitive Trauma Model (ECTM), developed by Faye Hall and Jeff Merkert, utilizes a targeted set of evidence based psychological...

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