Here are a few simple examples drawn from the descriptions above. Imagine for yourself the changes in communication that can be achieved with this simple technique.
Opposing and conflicting
- Part of me wants chicken, but another part wants fish for dinner.
- Part of me wanted to get up when the alarm rang, the other part of me wanted to go back to sleep.
- Part of me hates to be told what to do, the other part of me appreciates not having to learn everything for myself.
- A part of me was so mad, I wanted to throw something.
- A part of me throws up a little bit when I think of eating squid.
- A part of me gets so scared, I feel like I need to run away.
- A part of me thinks the weather is too cold to go outside, but the other part likes to walk in the snow.
- I have a part of me that knows this mom can be trusted, but I have another part that knows moms cannot be trusted.
- Part of me likes to learn things, but another part of me is afraid I cannot.
- Part of me wants to go to the park, but another part of me is afraid it won’t be fun.
- Part of me wants to complete my sticker chart, but another part of me is afraid I cannot.
- Part of me wants to stop getting in trouble, but my hurt part keeps messing with me.
- Part of me is happy thinking about the birthday party; part of me is afraid I will get in trouble.
- Part of me is excited about playing hockey; part of me is afraid I cannot.
- Part of me is sad about Grandma dying, but another part is glad she is not suffering.
- Part of me wants to behave to go on the field trip, but there is also a part that’s just tired of getting in trouble.
- Mom does what she does because she wants to help me, but there is also a part of her that doesn’t like some of my behaviors.
- Part of me wants to make my sister happy and help her with her chores, but the other part of me wants to go play.
Differing beliefs (NIWM)
- Part of me believes I am a good parent, but another part believes I am not because my son is struggling.
- Part of me believes Faye and Jeff are right about trauma, but another part can’t give up the belief in 1,2,3, Magic.
- Part of me believes my son loves me, but another part believes he is out to get me.
- Part of me feels full, but the other part still wants to eat.
- Part of me is exhausted, but another part doesn’t want to end the day and stop playing.
- Part of me enjoys playing with my younger children, but part of me is kind of bored with it.
- Part of me values my house cleaning above all else, but another part realizes it’s just a small part of being a mom.
- Part of me feels as if it’s a wife’s job to have dinner on the table every night at 5:30, but another part knows that with everything going on in our family, there are more important things to take care of.
- Part of me knows I need to work out more, but the other parts of me can’t seem to find the time.
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